This message is for the younger brothas and the majority of grown brothas will agree with me – you brothas are going to have to look beyond sistas and explore every option available to you for a partner and soulmate. I believe me, Tariq Nasheed, Tommy Sotomayor, maybe Jason Black or any other guy out there no matter how we feel, man-to-man, we are giving you real-world experience and advice. The only one I can see not agreeing is Dr. Umar Johnson claiming sistas are queens while he runs around banging a stripper. As a black man, you think discrimination is a problem or police brutality is a problem? Go ahead and watch sistas sneak into your life while you trying to come up, call you all the damn time to talk about nothing when you trying to side hustle and ask if you can come over and watch some dumb stuff on TV. Then if you stupid enough, she want to be in your crib and all in your business wondering who else you messing with. Then if you are an idiot, get her pregnant and then that is where the fun begin. She got excuses why she cannot go to LA Fitness with you and yall work out together but she got all the time in the world to go see a black comedian perform or a ghetto black play performance. Here is the problem and I mentioned this before – you brothas think you are dating a sista but what you are really dating is a byproduct of social experiments conducted by liberals and feminists. These sistas been told they don’t need a man and the government and non-profits can foot their bill and the sistas went along with it. They chatter among each other like chickenheads saying they don’t need a man. Then they grew into subcultures that express hatred towards black marriage and now you see sistas the main one trying to talk rumors about someone else divorcing in our community. They show each other how to use the courts to keep a man away from his child and get him to pay child support. When I was going through my divorce, I decided beforehand to pay these courts a visit and day after day, it was sistas coming in making all kind of crazy accusations against brothas who look like a deer in the headlights not believing what was being happened to him. And you know what I saw, lawyers smiling with her female client like they “got over” while charging their female client with a percentage of the money. You guys want to talk about racist District Attorneys – go sit your behind up in these family courts and look at sistas prosecuting brothas with lies about being scared for her life and their child is scared of their black father that has no basis in facts and she smiling after leaving court. Then you see it a whole another level of attacks against the black men that people like Dr. Umar Johnson refused to acknowledge so he can keep the rhetoric about sistas are queens. These ain’t queens, these are your enemies brothas that you brothas chosen to sleep with. Steve Harvey better not say anything either because he know better from his own experience. Look, you young brothas deserve better than that. You brothas are working hard to be your own man and some of you came back from Iraq and Afghanistan and I thank you for your service. Many of you want to do great things and I know you want a family with kids and a stable home and a woman that is going to be by your side. And what I’m telling you brothas is straight up – if you want all of that, look beyond the sistas and if you struggling to agree, then look at the sistas current activity that involve so much negativity. Then look elsewhere and go elsewhere and what you will find is a lot of other women from other cultures who will admire you for being ambitious and success-driven and will be there by your side, even as a friend. When I started dating non-black sistas, the first thing I learned about myself was I was conditioned to the negative condescending treatment by sistas and these other women pointed it out to me with my behavior. I had a few non-black sistas told me – these black women are not your friend and I had one non-black sista who snuck around black women I knew at a job I worked at and she heard them talking bad about me behind my back but these same sistas smiling in my face. Over and over by Indian and Asian and Latino, I was told that I had a lot of subtle negativity in me and that they saw a good brotha and a good person who had to deal with that. With that insight, I released myself from dating sistas subscribing to negativity and even associating with anybody who is about negativity and focused on what I need to do. In addition, I dated 3 Asian girls since 2007 – all of them right now today are my best friends and we still hang out and they treat me like a brother/sister relationship where we care about each other. I learned as I was looking back, I was not dating black women but I was dating a negative ideology orchestrated by sistas out to take down her own brotha. But the first thing the sistas will say is I dated the wrong sistas – ask that same sista how many out of wedlock kids she got or what depression medicine she is on and she will go quiet real fast. The one thing I learned dating other sistas is there is an extreme component that we brothas are not looking at when dealing with any woman – her family and most important, her father. I got to meet the father of these other women I’m dating and these are hardworking good men and successful men who love their daughter. And they validated me because they saw I was also a good man with ambitions and goals and discipline. When the father of the woman you dealing with validates you, that is the only one who respect matters and you are not going to see this dynamic dealing with a lot of sistas. The father element is not there and you brothas if you looking for quality, that has to be there. This is not marrying people, you brothas need to learn you are looking to create a family structural unit designed to last generations, that’s why other cultures do pre-arranged marriages because it’s about generations, not two couples infatuation with each other. You brothas look at sistas nowadays especially online and you will see a lot of negativity. Look at those negative ugly sistas at Beyond Black and White – do you honestly want to date or deal with a sista associated with that kind of garbage? I been blogging for nearly 10 years and seen ignorant bloggers like that Christelyn go crazy and self-destruct while putting out negative garbage for a living - that's how they all go out. Then you got these “dark skin women problems” talking about their poor self-esteem problems when the black community going through real issues with economic inequality and injustice where cats cannot even eat and sleep and have shelter but these “dark skin sistas” are busy talking about self-actualization, the top of Maslow hierarchy of Needs lamenting about their skin color like some shallow idiots. You brothas sure you want this kind of crap and nonsense in your life? I am a real man who was raised on the West Side of Chicago in a married household and went out and served in combat and is a war veteran, went to college joined a black fraternity and after graduation, entered the technology industry and became entrepreneurial and travelled globally to see this world and different cultures. I use my real name on the Internet and have nothing to hide because I have always handled my business with cats wanting to try this. I'm too successful and happy with myself to be "bitter" and have too many connections and quality people to never be in a negative situation. You go ahead and let anybody who want to dispute me or call me out - tell them to put their name and record out there and you decide on what’s real and who selling propaganda. And this blog has nothing but years of articles design to uplift brothas and sistas, ask those other people what they wrote and compare what they wrote to what I write, yeah, thought so. But here is the thing I want to leave you brothas with – I want you to check out these sistas over at that Beyond Black and White stuff and look at the obvious. What do you see missing? What you see missing is something I learned to have and what you brothas learned to have – that is called faith. Those negative sistas just like those ugly poets I blogged about earlier have no faith and without faith, they are dead souls just talking. You brothas want a woman that has faith things with will work out, things will get better. I deal with non-black sistas who hear news of natural disasters in their home country wiping out thousands of people that she grew up with – but these women still tell me things like they have faith things will be better and they also tell me they believe in me, what I want to hear and need to hear. Brothas, there is way too many sistas in this world that are not African-American that you can choose to build the empire with and your legacy to pass down to your future generation. We are in a global world and you can get a passport nowadays to make global moves. We brothas had the Million Man March where we atoned for things we done and decided to take responsibility as black men. The sistas did nothing even close to this and took zero responsibility and engage in nothing but negativity and breaking up the black family unit for a social entitlement that will not exist after President Obama leave office. You brothas are hearing from an elder black man and I’m telling you this with 100% sincerity – look elsewhere and find her that will be good to you and have faith in you, the majority of African-American sistas just ain’t the business anymore.