You Don’t Have to Like Her, But Love Her Because She Still Your Goddamn Sista


In a previous article about some brothas and their so-called movement bumping gums about they doing Brazil and stuff, I noticed something in the comment section. I was reading a lot of statements by brothas that was basically weird and stupid. I saw cats using a lot of buzzwords like Matrix like they hang around other guys making up these words together instead of dudes just going out and find a good woman on his own accord. But another one that caught my attention was a few of those guys were trying to call me a woman – I’m not offended by that and felt that was the most stupid thing a brotha can say.

I don’t feel bothered being called a “woman” because I have respect for my sistas and women. The way these brothas called me or another guy a woman or “her” indicates these black guys view women in a degrading manner yet these guys are talking about how they cannot get a woman and have to “go to Brazil” to get some action or whatever. I don’t know, was I supposed to be offended being called a woman? But what is revealing is the guys who said that, these are guys who have a level of hatred of women in general. If any of you brothas see another dude try to call another dude a woman, check his punk ass – a woman is not an insult, she is our sista and we have to remember that.

At the end of the day, no matter how any of you scorned ass black dudes feel about black women, she is still our sista and we are going to need our sistas on any global moves we have to make. You brotha can bump your gums on the Internet all you want and tell up some good stories about how much traveling you do like you so special and ish – as if no one else out here can travel, right? At the end of the day, I grew up in the hood with my sistas and I love my sistas because that’s all I know in this world who I really can rely on when shit goes down – I can trust her more than any of you brothas running your mouth.

I ran a check on every one of those brothas bumping their gums on that thread and they are all basic as hell or just simple. Most of them are in school and as we indicated years ago on Dream and Hustle, a lot of this hatred propaganda towards black women by these black dudes is happening on these college campuses, mostly at majority black schools like HBCUs notably Clark-Atlanta and Howard. Here is the thing – I noticed the cats complaining the most about the American sistas ain’t got too much to show and tell. They want a sista to like him for his charming personality or some shit like that and dude just mad seeing her only dealing with brothas who driving whips and can take a sista to the NBA game or see Katt Williams perform on stage and stuff.

In the real world and in societies all over the world, you have to have your shit together as your own man before stepping to a woman. You guys want to pull that mack lessons bullshit you read somewhere or some PUA shit when the real world and God’s Law mandated you need to be a real self-sustaining man that can provide for your wife and your children and able to contribute to your tribe. And you trying to bullshit the natural order of things wanting to just sex up and knock up a chick and then get mad you cannot pay the child support or she keeping you from your kids because you too stupid or too broke to fight for shared custody in court.

Look, don’t be acting like this is a one-sided issue when brothas was doing all that “I don’t love those hoes” shit back in the day and dudes parading around butt models and video vixens and hit it from the back culture against our black women painting them with a broad brush – don’t say we brothas didn’t do that shit because we did – all those goddamn butt model magazine crap and chasing after chicks with fake butt implants and stuff. So we brothas ain’t innocent in all of this and got our share of blame for creating a negative degrading misogynistic culture against our sistas. Second, only a punk ass dude would start whining about what sistas did when he as a man should be able to craft and change the world and environment around him because that is the power we men have as our primal nature.

From everything I see about the brothas whining about black women, they cannot hold down the business as a man, plain and simple. And the brothas who can hold it down, including me – I do not have these sistas problem you other brothas are yapping about. I run into just as many stupid ass sistas as the next brotha but I know how to filter out bad data and fish (daddy taught me how to fish and bait and be patience) for the good quality sistas. I even talk over on this blog about my Chinese bae who I’m now going to class to learn Mandarin for so we can talk because she barely understands my ghetto slang and fast talking dialect. Chinese brothas telling me don’t learn Mandarin because they all want to learn English and I’m wasting my time. Anyway, I’m basically saying I talk about my Chinese bae and still get to date sistas over and over and have a good time together.

You brothas need to step your damn game up – you got to have it where you spending $70 at Outback and she can order whatever the fuck she want. You got to have the skills to buy a 2003 Mercedes G-Class for $25k and replace the front lights and grill to look like the $150k 2015 G63 version and repaint it matte and put new wheels and interior on it. You got to get use to Caribbean cruises and taking her on those excursions with her girlfriends about. You got to deal with another dude kids and present yourself as a real man that digging their momma. And you got to have hustle like AirBnB an apartment in the hood next to mass transit and downtown and stack the paper up together like Bonnie and Clyde. You brothas ain’t got your shit together to roll with a sista like that and that’s the real problem – not her, and you brothas need to man up and admit it.

I’m in the tech scene and when I started going for myself, it just wasn’t sistas around – just fine ass Asian and Indian and Latina chicks mostly. But after Scandal came out and these sistas celebrating that bullshit and sold out Michelle Obama, I publicly written off dating any sistas and I blogged about that here and got backlash but I stood my ground and don’t regret it one bit. Even though I’m back to dating the sistas on a limited basis (I screen out sistas for liking Scandal), I don’t hate my sista because like I said, I still love her because our sistas is all we brothas got and vice versa. You don’t have to like her but she is still your sista, brotha.

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