In my life reflection, the biggest turnoff as a man is discovering a sista I’m interested in is occupied with listening to other folks. That is a major red flag revealing she is a weak woman influenced by others, need a social attachment to others, and not looking for a God-given helpmate.

Sistas, I need you to protect yourself first and the first thing you protect is yourself from the messages that enter your space.

• Who is talking to you?
• Why they are talking to you?
• What personal benefit they receive talking to you?  

As a man, I have to protect my household, my assets, my legacy as the patriarch of my generational downline. That means I have to vet for a woman capable of upholding our family legacy.

Good men are quietly leaving the sistas because he sees many sistas as unfit for marriage. Many of you sistas are not marriage-minded and think you can tempt high-value men with sex but a man can easily get approached by casual hookers at a club and she will give it up to him. If he a good man, the women at his professional place, his church, his school will give him some, he doesn’t need you for sex like that if that’s all you have in play in the marketplace for a good man. I just wrote earlier I visited Colombia – you sistas better get a clue.

Sista I need you to understand one thing - if he was groomed to be high value, there were Jack and Jill women already setup to marry that man since he was a boy, you over here on some BS and don't understand the order of things.

What I observed with a lot of women is she is listening to other people a lot. She is letting too many voices enter her mind and rent space in her head on how to meet a man, have a relationship with a man, how to get her way with a man, and how to diss her man and teach him a lesson. She is listening to everybody except herself.

I do not understand why you sistas are allowing this to happen - listening to others is not a woman primal instinct or behavior. A woman natural instinct is to have a suitable helpmate to raise her children and provide a stable household for the whole family – it’s only that one man and a sista job to go out there and not listen to others. Why are the sistas doing this butt-backwards listening to outside people?

A Comedian on the Radio, Huh Sista?

Steve Harvey? You let this comedian tell you how to personally deal with a Black man you are physically around in your community, in your social circle?

Why would you give Steve Harvey that kind of power over you and he is just a propagandist and joker on a radio station? Steve Harvey running his mouth for money, to pander to his weak-minded audience that would listen to that nonsense he is spouting.

That means you sistas are letting a guy like Steve Harvey transmit his bullsh*t to your head via media content transmission with books, conferences, radio, TV and Steve Harvey is not even close or around you. A man see you allowing this to happen and realize you are a weak-minded woman that allow non-realized voices get into a sista head. No man want a woman that easily influenced by someone she don’t know and is likely listening to what she want to hear.

Relationship Expert in His Car on a Mobile Phone, Sista?

A high-value man goes on his social media feed and see a sista sharing a dude talking from a vlog or podcast setup or from his car seat on how a man should be for his women. But what a man is seeing is a pander bear simp telling women what she wants to hear about a man.

That high value man will instantly unfollow or hide that woman content because she showed a brotha something. First, she believes in someone else outside her bubble telling her how to interact with a man instead of her bringing her natural womanhood into the relationship.

Seriously, what man want a woman listening to other men tell her how to have a relationship with him?

Have the sistas even thought about that logic before pasting a video of a goofy dude trying to talk for likes and subscribes about relationships? Did you sistas just think a man would be ok with that nonsense? No, he sees that sista as weak-minded and silly and another woman not serious about the covenant of love taken under the name of God.

A Pastor with No Real Good Brothas in the Congregation, Sista?

A man will go to a church, particularly a Black church and cannot wait for that sermon is over to run out of that janky, ignorant space he had to politely be in.

You sistas seek advice from a janky pastor most likely having sexual relationships with the women in the church, taking their money as tithes and buying nice stuff for himself and the first church lady who know he cheating on her?

This quietly turns a man off immediately because he know God won’t be in this relationship. Instead that brotha knows whatever that goofy pastor said, the sista will take as gospel and direction in his relationship. She will say something completely stupid about Jesus is her man – Black women who got their Christianity from slave masters and colonizers saying stupid sh*t about God and religion to her man who been with her throughout human history.

God put man and woman together and no one comes between them. Sistas be letting folks from the church tell her how to move in a relationship with her man. Then that man hears that BS coming out of her mouth and know the pastor or sabotaging lady from that church got his woman talking crazy instead of working it out between them both.  

Your Bitter Single Girlfriends, Sista?

This is the most confusing one to me. I stated before that the term “pick me” is crazy and only a lesbian hiding behind a social alias would use that term to shame another woman. No woman should be talking to another woman about her pursuit of a man, period. Sista that is your chase – if I ever see a woman respond to another woman calling her a “pick me” I will drop her immediately without comment or explanation.

Then sistas don’t understand the girl group, the girl trip, they all just blockers to prevent a sista from finding a man on her own journey.

You sistas go on these trips and you see sistas begin to tell you what man to talk to and not talk to. They set it up where they try to control you sistas and tell you who to like and don’t like. Many of you sistas go along with the group bullying and you lose access to a good man.

The one I found funny is the “decenter men” movement with average to ugly women on TikTok talking into the webcam trying to gaslight women to stop evolving around men.

Sista, take your life back.

What brothas and men like me learned is we know a woman that stands on her own pedestal and hold her own square and don’t need “girlfriends”, she just need her man and her family. We men know these women when we see.

You do not know how many women I had to instantly disqualify because she is pretty, but she is surrounded by overweight and ugly sistas. I know those chicks she hang around cannot get a man and talk about what man they hate and why. Sistas, stay away from these groups. This is why the only way I would consider a sista is if I’m overseas in Japan at a café and an American sista walks in sit for coffee.

BTW, I have not revealed this yet but when I went to Japan, a Black woman who was reading this blog showed up at the very café in Tokyo I said I hang out at. She was cute too. Also in Japan, I had another one contact me telling me she has a stayover in Tokyo and if I can sit down with her. That’s the only way I’m meeting an American sista - she is moving on her own around this world; the rest of these goofy sistas hanging out in girl groups at brunch or on a girls trip is are weak-minded sheep.

The Democrat Party and Liberals, Sista?

This is the heavy part – watching the majority of sistas not thinking for herself and voting out of feelings and emotions is enough for a man to not risk his strategy to rise to power.

Think about Kamala Harris and the hypocrisy of our sistas. Our sistas claim to have more money, more property than the brothas, right? So one would think our sistas would realize the harm to her personal wealth if Kamala Harris promise to introduce new taxes including capital gains tax.

If a sista is too emotional to care about her own wealth with her voting choice, I see her as an unhinged emotional woman I will let her be nowhere near me mingling with my wealth and assets.

Democrats fill sistas head with promises and once the election over, what we see is the Democrats switch up quickly on the sistas. The Democrats use the power they gain from Black women votes and empower other people, other women except Black women in Black communities. Our sistas let the Democrats play her like this election after election.

Again, another line of outside transmission into the sista head using emotional manipulation. I saw the video of Michelle Obama just did at a Kamala rally in Michigan talking about women's' health issues and what Kamala will do but haven’t done in the past 3.5 years as Vice President.

One More: Some African Chick on Social Media Telling You to Hate Your Brothas?

Why is an American sista even listening to an African woman or Caribbean women gaslighting her on her American man?

That African woman will never talk about her African man like that because she knows exactly how her man will deal with her in that country.

Here is the thing by default, my sista – if an African or Caribbean woman decide to create TikTok or YouTube videos talking to you American sistas about American brothas, you should know that non-FBA thinks you sistas are stupid or gullible. What she is doing is trying to collect coins by imitating the culture of sistas hatred of her own men and piggybacking that content that she thinks American sistas will consume.

These African/Caribbean women are broke in their devalued currency and targeting American sistas for coins and don’t respect/care what they tell the sistas. The fact sistas would even entertain some woman from overseas like a monkey-head TonyaTKO trying to target American Black men tells me that my American sistas have a psychosis problem to the point anybody around the world can tell her to hate her own brotha from her own community.

Here is a Better Approach Sista – Just Build with Him

This is that part of the article where I want to talk about how to resolve this problem, but I cannot. When a sista start allowing other people to get inside of her head about her own man, she is compromised and we men have no choice but to write her off completely.

Once a man finds out a woman is listening to other people, she is no good to a man who is high-value and respect his security, his assets, his space, his legacy. Do you sistas want another woman telling your man how to deal with you and he listening to her instead of talking to you directly? So why you sistas doing that BS letting other people rent space in your head?

Sistas, let me give you solid advice.

From day one, back in college – that was the time you supposed to build with a brotha as equal yoke, equal beginning. You find someone in school and you both get married after college, after going on a European trip after college, finding a new apartment in a new city and build the life up and family legacy up. You both got one million in your 401k, not 45 and hanging out at hookah spots. That is how it supposed to be done.

But we all know what happened – you sistas acted like stank hot sh*t to the brothas on campus and turned them away or try to belittle them for being at the same station in life as you were in college.  That was the only chance you had in life sista, everything else is a cope or settle that you pretending and gaslighting about.

Now sistas are here in 2024 listening to Steve Harvey on a frequency modulator (FM radio) telling sistas how to have a relationship and how a man should be or should not be. No real man can take a woman like that seriously and if he is smart, he will quickly cut that sista out of his life altogether as a risk to his life, his wealth, and his legacy.

Black men are no longer allowing anybody to f*ck with his bag anymore.

I cannot offer a solution for any sista who already allowed others to tell her how to deal with a man – she is compromised and I would urge a brotha to stay away and avoid any sista that goes out on girl trips, goes to church and listen to the pastor, or listen to radio and YouTube for relationship advice. She is already broken and cannot be repaired and she is compromised by people that good man does not know.

The only ones I can reach out to are those sistas in college – learn to find a good man in college and build with him. Many people in my circle don’t know the real story but they saw me with another Japanese girl before the current one I got with. I found out she was with a guy in college and I told her to break off with me and get with that guy in college because that is the best option she ever going to have.

Last year, I learned they were a married couple and saw the pictures of the husband and their new baby. The current Japanese woman I am with showed me the pictures because it was the first girlfriend that introduced me to the current Japanese lady. Yep, don’t need a stank-attitude sista in America to gaslight me – I got quality women all over the world introducing me to new women, lol.

I’m sorry sistas but the minute you subscribed to someone else talking to you about how to deal with your future or current man, you lost big time. No real man will ever take you seriously again, everything is a cope or a settle.

 You sistas in college better take heed and start focusing on building with a brotha at your station in life in college You build everything from zero with him and don’t let no one come between you and him. Build up the empire, the legacy, and the best life for your family.

If you messed up in college, you have a few years to find a man at professional events to make up but after that, a man is going to choose that other chick overseas that is solid before settling for the BS you sistas chosen to do other than build up with a man.