The day you make your choice to move in a new direction, is the day you found peace and purpose.

For sistas, this article is specifically for you. But it applies to most sistas I met around the world. There is a battle to chart your own path in this world vs people “showing up” in your life trying to keep you stationed or in your place.

Throughout my life, I watched others try to “protect and direct” young sistas on their intention, and she done nothing but followed their lead instead of aligned herself within her own purpose.

We have already spoke on how the liberal media and Democrats want to target Black women for emotional manipulation. We already discussed how these other sistas and their “pick me” lesbian nonsense trying to exert control through shaming.

Then you have these dudes trying to give you “relationship advice” from a car seat or from the church pulpit selling emotional manipulation through God and religion, hustling for money from sistas so the First Lady at the church can drive a six-figure car and look important with those sistas in the tithing.

Then the worst is the family and friends, trying to limit a sista instead of respecting her journey to bigger and better things in life. Coming around and got opinions on how she should be virtuous and submissive and just a pretty woman at the family dynamics, well behaved and quiet as the men talk.

Sista – walk away, plain and simple and move in a new direction like the rest of us. This should be in your Thailanta Plan B on making that next big move if things don’t work out. This is your first step towards peace and fulfilling the purpose you longing for.

Let’s discuss some points on this endeavor

Gap Analysis

A gap analysis is a document that has two columns. The first column is where you want to be. The second column is where you are currently at. The gap analysis is how to get from where you are at to where you want to be.

For example, you want to be in Thailand working on science-fiction Afroasiatic AI novels, living in a $550/month condo. But you are currently in Bloomington, Indiana around petty Divine 9 brothas and sistas trying to drag you into a mess and tell you how to date and be at places that waste your time and energy, paying $1,350/month for rent.

These brothas and sistas have all the energy to admire someone they don’t know but won’t offer you a word of encouragement for your passion for creating Noir science fiction works.

This is the type of stuff you sistas quietly deal with in your current station. Create the gap analysis document, at Starbucks or the library and write down exactly how you want take ownership and be at a place where you truly belong and desire to be.

Discover Actors and Roles

Look around and identify who is in your life right now and how they are involved. You sistas likely have a cousin or female friend dropping TikTok videos of someone lecturing you on relationship advice and telling you to hate Black men. See how these people show up around you like that?

Look at the dudes in your life, are they helping you or trying to put you in your place? You have family members that are the worst that don’t want to see you take control of your own life and have your own plans. They will withhold praise, give silent treatment. I had that going on in my life as a man, and those people family or not, were quickly removed from my space – protect your space sista.

Look around at who you are allowing in your life, who you are following like the Steve Harvey radio show where the Democrats and Cathy Hughes already there trying to manipulate you with Black media towards women that focus on emotion, celebrity gossip, and drama, instead of insight, advice and support.

Identify them all, be a little paranoid, aware, then realize they all got to get out of a sista ethos altogether. Because you need absolute control and governorship of your purpose journey, Steve Harvey has no role or voice in a damn thing you going through in the real world.

Destroy Dogma Through Decision

Making decisions that let everybody know you as a sista is not going along with dogma. You make the call you are moving Afroasiatic to Japan or Thailand. Anybody got something to say, you remind them to be careful with their mouth and respect your decision on how to move with your life.

You tell these sistas having a lecture or conversation on finding a man, you are not interested in what she got to say. When that sista or these simp brothas find out you ain’t listening to their propaganda, you will see how fast they run out of your life.

This is important and a good thing – when I call someone out on their bullsh*t, someone who been hanging around trying to befriend me for months or even years – they disappear in less than a few days, meaning they were not solid and was there trying to play games with me. That’s when you realize it’s people there trying to establish dogma.

I had a dude who thought he was going to nudge me from stop dating my Japanese chick and talk to these toxic sistas here in America. The toxic sistas believe my role as a man is to be shamed and insulted and accept their condescending and rejections – f*ck those sistas, I found a real woman that is good to me in Japan and I’m good.

Once that brotha got the message and I let them know don’t be in my business – he disappeared never to be spoken or seen again, after being around for years trying to tell me who to date. Again, notice how quickly the fake ones dissolve as soon as you stand on yours.

That’s what I’m telling you, learn to let those go who are trying to set rules on a sista – watch how fast they disappear and no longer in your life.

Take Active Ownership

The best decision and activity in your life sista, will be the day it’s time to put it all in a box, and move on to a new chapter. It’s when you decide you making that move to Bali or Thailand or go to a language school in Japan for a year.

Now you have something to look forward to – that’s where peace, and purpose manifest itself. Because now you are in control. At this point, no one got much to say but goodbyes and good luck. And you realize you are in control of deciding your next step in life and your journey.

Start packing the nonessentials, and get a storage space, start boxing. Go do research on that next move or Plan B and make sure it is a solid plan. Find that new job or start that new revenue-making endeavor right now as a side hustle and make sure you have it fine-tuned before you leave out.

But the biggest thing is to celebrate you seized ownership and control of your life. You chosen to move Afroasiatic with the rest of the real ones. No Divine 9 characters telling you to vote for Kamala Harris, no girlfriends trying to shame you as a “pick me” when she is a lesbian trying to get at you, no more dudes talking or lecturing you on how to fit their mold of how you should be, instead of respecting who you trying to be for yourself.

That whole feeling is peace and purpose. Go find it, and own it, and cherish it.